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One of a Kind News Table of Contents 2. Article -- Don't Let Others Should on You 3. Words of Wisdom 4. Resources = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 1. Welcome Notes I'm pleased to welcome 25 new subscribers! Thank you for joining us. It's a gorgeous sunny morning here on Puget Sound. One of my dreams was to live near the water with a view. Now I do and I treasure every moment in this wonderful space. It took me many years and many detours to end up in this glorious place. Life is like that. It's rare that we take a straight line to our dreams. Rather, it seems there are side roads we have to take along the way. If you have dreams that haven't yet been fulfilled, never give up. You may just need to take yourself out of park and get moving again. Sometimes when we stay parked on a side road, it's because we don't know which way to go. In this issue of One of a Kind News, I write about that dilemma. = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = 2. Don't Let Others Should on You "What do you want to do with the rest of your life?" This question came from a man I looked up to. As I stumbled for the answers, it became apparent that I had none. I didn't know what I wanted to do. In fact, I didn't know much at all about what I wanted. "A woman your age should know what she wants to do with her life by now", he said. I was mortified and devastated. I felt embarrassed and ashamed. There was something wrong with me; I didn't know what I wanted. My mind grabbed onto that message like a dog with a bone and wouldn't let go. My mind didn't remind me that I had spent the last 24 of my 44 years raising three children, most of the time as a single mom; that I had gone back to school at 41 and was working full time, going to school full time and taking care of a home and family by myself. No, none of that entered my mind; it was too full of shame that I didn't know what I wanted. Last week I wrote about making your dreams a high priority. That is well and good, if you know what your dreams are. But, what if you don't? Well, the truth that I know now, thirteen years after that painful message, is that most people don't know what they want! As Thoreau so profoundly stated, "The majority of men (and women) lead lives of quiet desperation". If you are a person who is frustrated by not knowing what you want, I'm here to tell you that that frustration only means that you want to know. Frustration only means we don't have something we want. It's not a bad thing; rather it's a good thing. Honor that frustration because it is a message from your inner self, nudging you to find out. If you don't know what you want, that simply means there is a gold mine inside you, just waiting to be discovered. If you are ready and willing to find out what you want, you can choose to be the prospector of that gold. The answers are inside you; you just have to mine for them. No one has to live in "quiet desperation." We all have the ability to get in touch with the kind of life we want and to go for it. To mine for that gold, you will need desire, willingness, persistence, patience, support and tools. It's up to you to come up with the desire, willingness, persistence, patience and support. I will give you some tools that have worked for my clients and myself. Next week's issue of One of a Kind News will address your gold mine and give you tools to begin mining that gold. In the meantime, don't let anyone "should on you" and don't "should on" yourself! In fact, take "should" out of your vocabulary. It has no redeeming value whatsoever.
= = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = "Listening to your heart is not simple. Finding out who you are is not simple. It takes a lot of hard work and courage to get to know who you are and what you want." "Everyone has talent. What is rare is the courage to follow the talent to the dark place where it leads." "It matters only that you manifest your genius; it doesn't matter when. It's never too late or too early." "The road to success is lined with many tempting parking spaces." = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = Finding Your Own North Star, Claiming the life you were meant to live, by Martha Beck. You may have seen Martha Beck on the Oprah show or read her articles in "O Magazine". I like this book and recommend it for those of you who are interested in becoming clear on what you want for your life. Here is a review from Amazon.com that I agree with: FINDING YOUR OWN NORTH STAR is a breath of fresh air, a glimmer of hope and besides being immensely helpful and instructive is a good read! It's not often that all those ingredients are found in a self-help book. I would recommend snatching this gem up for anyone who's feeling a little lost or off-track with their life. Martha Beck's straightforward, honest, and poignant writing makes you feel as if your really really smart and really really sensitive best friend was helping you figure out how to regain--or even experience for the first time--the sense of joy in life that everybody deserves. Beck gives you the map and the tools for evaluating your own dreams, goals, morals, and even sense of self and helps you dig down deep within yourself to explore what *really* makes you happy! Check out this book by clicking on the following link. = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = Until we meet again, remember to: Count your garden by the flowers, Blessings to you and yours, Sharon = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = = =
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